| Talk to
each other and keep focused on the subject of your
children. Children should not serve as the direct
line of communication between the two of you.
Take the anger out of you
communications. Do not use your child as a way to
get back at each other or validate your anger with each
other.
Get help dealing with the
inevitable anger from a broken relationship. Learn
to communicate in a less reactive, more proactive way.
Share
Information. Have a calendar with all the family
engagements written on it and let the other parent know
of any changed plans.
Never talk badly about
the other parent in front of your children.
Keep a flexible routine
and leave room for spontaneity. Help your child
feel that he has two homes, mom's and dad's, where he
feels free to come and go. Live as close to each
other as possible.
Set clear rules and
limits in your home. Kids thrive under structure,
so stick to the limits you set.
Make an extra effort to
open the lines of communication by phone, e-mail, fax,
other means.
Develop rituals that help
maintain stability and continuity in your relationship
with your children. |
